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Date Night Dilemma: Going Out For dinner

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Back in January when I was working on my blog post Hello 2018 some of the goals I had in mind for the year included working on my marriage. Now my marriage isn't falling apart but it isn't perfect either. With all of our daily struggles I didn't want to end up with a failing marriage too. Prior to kids we used to go out all the time. Obviously for financial reasons, and well life, we can't do that anymore. But we can try to reconnect, and make more time for each other. Don't get me wrong, Family time is so important, but so is one on one time with your spouse. 

So a couple of weeks ago my sister was visiting and the hubby and I decided to seize the opportunity and asked her to watch the boys so we could go out on a dinner date. Truthfully we were supposed to go to an appreciation dinner but wanted to utilize the whole babysitter and get some time alone together. I honestly can't remember the last time My hubby and I went out to eat for dinner just the two of us.…

Family Day: Getting Back to Basics

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With Family Day around the corner it got me thinking about my first blog post of the year, Hello 2018. One of my goals for the year was to spend more time with my family. We used to dedicate one day a week (usually on a weekend) to spend time together. Whether it be going out and doing something as a family or doing something at home. Sometimes these things cost money and others don't. Sadly family time became few and far between. We had so much going on in our lives that we lost sight of what we loved. So I wanted to get back to that. A time when we put down our phones (No answering calls, texts, checking social media etc other than use of the camera for the odd picture of a silly moment) and just spent time together. 

Family day (A Newer Holiday) is just over a week away where we live. For those of you who are unsure what Family Day is I'll break it down for you, it's quite simple really. It was a Holiday established so people could spend time with their families while al…

Am I Going Crazy? My battle with My Mind

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Bell Lets Talk day was just last week. A cause I can get behind and truly support. Anxiety is Real, Depression is Real, the fear and other feelings that go with it is real. You know what else is real? The Stigma attached to it. So lets talk and move forward on ending the Stigma. 

Hindsight-I should have posted this story last week on that day. A lot has happened in the past year. Our oldest started Medication for his ADHD. (We tried alternative methods for almost 2 years, before we decided it was time). My husband left his job of over 12 years to start a new Job in a completely different field. (Was a tough decision but a lot weighed on what was best for our family). Our oldest also received his official Diagnosis of High Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder. (This actually didn't come to a shock to us, but rather put things into perspective). My parents who lived 15 minutes away sold their house and Moved 3 hours away. (This was a harder pill to swallow than my son's diagnosis…

Will You Be My Valentine: D.I.Y Decor and More

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So here we are two weeks away from the day of "Love" or the most mass marketed holiday. This holiday can bring up feelings of joy and excitement, but it can also bring up feelings of resentment and hate. No matter the side of the fence you sit on (the middle like me), you may have an inkling to decorate for the holiday, or need to get some Valentine's put together for your child's class. I've compiled a list of some budget friendly D.I.Y Decor and handmade Valentine ideas, some I have done myself, and other's I have found in the bottomless pit of ideas also known as Pinterest, 

Decor: Even with Dollar store's having amazing selections of craft supplies and seasonal decor it can be easy to go spend a ton of money where it isn't needed. I wanted to decorate for the 'Holiday' my reasons can be found in my previous post The Hallmark Holiday. I also didn't want to break the bank doing so. I love my kids and would do anything for them, but bankru…

Will you Be My Valentine: The "Hallmark Holiday"

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As I sit here scheduling things in my planner I realized that Valentine's Day is right around the corner. Valentine's Day, or as I like to call it the "Hallmark Holiday" is either loved or hated. I truthfully have never really liked it. I'm not a huge fan. My husband and I have never really celebrated it, other than our first year together, many moons ago. I'm not the the type of girl who loves getting bouquets of flowers. I see the romance in the gesture but it's just not me. To me who looks at things on the practical side, sees it as a waste of money. You are paying for flowers that are going to 1) make me sneeze, and 2) die in week. Gee Thanks I get watch these flowers die as a sign of your affection for me? No Thanks. Besides, why do we need a specific holiday to tell someone we love them. Can't we just do that any old day of the week? Some may call me cynical, but that's just who I am. 

In the past, I never really decorated for Valentine's…

Caelan's Journey: Part 1 The First Diagnosis

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One of the reason's I started Mommy Dearest and blogging again was to share our journey. Though our life in pictures on Social Media looks very much normal, it isn't and I wanted to give a glimpse behind closed doors.

Our oldest son Caelan has High Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder and 2 other Comorbid Disorders, A.D.H.D Combined Type (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder -CADDRA)1 and G.A.D (General Anxiety Disorder) . [Comorbid[koh-mawr-bid]- Adjective 1. (of medical conditions) present simultaneously in a patient: comorbidinsomniaand anxiety; depression comorbid with phobiasdiabetics with comorbid hypertensionOrigin of Comorbid 1908-85; co + morbid (in the sense "associated with or characteristic of a disease) ComorbidityNoun
Dictionary.com Unabridged Based on the Random House Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2018.]2


Prior to having any official diagnosis in the household my husband and I were very ignorant to any of these, it wasn't because we didn't want t…

Tripping Over Toys!

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Have you ever tripped over toy or stepped on a Lego? It's like extreme conditioning training and a part of parenthood. I would rather walk on hot coals than step on a tiny piece of Lego. It is a pain like no other. Often I find myself dodging toys, snack containers, and sippy cups. That is the life of a parent. Even after I have cleaned like no other and the place is sparkling within a couple of minutes my toddler has destroyed the room. Toys about and him happily playing with the final toy he found after dumping the entire toy box out. 
So here am I last night I finished my school work and tackled the dishes that were staring at me from the sink. The same ones that I said earlier could wait til later. Later is now and I might as well get them done while I am still standing here in the kitchen. I'm exhausted and I’m calling it a night. I have one more mission and that is to move my littlest from the living room where he has fallen asleep, to bed.
He’s a light sleeper so I must …